Help! My relatives/friends are always asking me money?
Posted by: world of warcraft in Uncategorizedhere’s the story:
I’m engaged to a kano and we are planning to get married anytime as soon as I get my visa. I hope everything goes well for us. ![]()
The bad things are:
* Why do people think I have a lot of money? My co-workers, when they found out that I have a kano fiance they always tell me “hey libre ka naman dyan, mayaman ka naman diba?” (hey why don’t you treat us out since you are rich right?)
* I have a friendster account so my fiance and me are the main profile picture, I always get a message like this from my ‘friends’ and ‘ex-coworkers’ “wow, siguro di mo na kailagan magwork kasi mayaman ka naman na at may sustento, libre mo naman kami” (wow maybe you dont work anymore because you have a monthly allowance, treat us out”)
edit: I resigned from work about a year ago because I had an open heart surgery and needed a lot of time to recover. All of the bills were taken care by my mom.
* then when i asked them if they can join me sometimes and hang around with me. They always tell me “sure pero libre mo kami ha” (sure, but you get to treat us ok?” )
Why are they acting like that? My fiance is far from being rich and he is working his *** off to make ends meet. Just because he is a kano, it doesn’t make me rich.
I feel like I can’t be with someone else right now without telling me to treat them. Sometimes I go out alone and didn’t bother to call them. I feel like I don’t have a real friends anymore and they don’t want to be with me If i don’t treat them.
I can’t invite them now because I’ll always hear “libre mo kami” (treat us out) I did it once.. and now they expect me to do it over and over again. Even some of my relatives expect that I have more money and that I won the lottery. It’s freaking me out sometimes!
* then one time while i was still working. We had a farewell party because we got assigned to a different team. After the dinner, some of them told me “kaya na ni Melissa yan” (Melissa can pay that) I know they were joking but i didn’t feel right.
How can I tell them that we’re not made of gold? Should i just brush them off? Now, when i want to do strolling… I just do it alone. I don’t tell them anymore. When I say “no, i don’t have money so i cant treat you” they say “oh you are being cheap”
This is totally frustrating.
To Jack:
If you think I’m trying to degrade my fiance because I called him a “kano” you are mistaken. He even addressed himself as a kano. It is not derogatory. It is just short for “Amerikano” now “flip” on the other side could be derogatory.. and he never called me that. So if you’re an American and got offended.. I did not mean it.
Kano is not a bad word.
To everybody:
Thank you guys for all your answers! To Guri.. hehe that’s ok!
“ako si dude” - nice advice!
This coming wednesday 2 of my high school friends and I are trying to go out and of course they told me to treat both of them.
I’m thinking of something to tell them.. Do you have an idea? Should i just tell them..”NO I cant treat you because we’re broke”
laura- sad part is.. most of them have job!
ailen- sure we can be friends! maybe hang out together ![]()
aref- haha i really thought you would say beat them all!
jaimee- very honest!
moomy- thanks!
Thank you all!
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